On my Soap Box….

Ok so there has been a lot of conversations surrounding the Dreaded…. da da da……

California Proposition 8, the ban on gay marriage.

I found it shocking that this kind of ban would be in affect any where in the US but the fact that it was passed in California was even more shocking to me.

I happened to be reading a friends blog who posted a post about this very thing wanting to know why anyone would be “ok” with banning  gay marriage. He has yet to have any one give a reason other then religion and Bigotry but as I read through some of the comments I read the dumbest reason of all….

It was something that one of his readers said that they overheard… (not believed) just offering a “Maybe this is what they think” kind of comment…

“I overheard somebody talking about the marriage deal, and they said something to the effect of “marriage” being a contract with the child the two people gave life to, and that that wouldn’t be possible between two people of the same sex.”

I know that the person that typed this does not believe this statement but I thought about this comment for a while after reading it…

So in reading that thought what they think (the person that actually made the comment that was over heard) is that just because a same sex couple can not biologically create a child together that they cannot or should not be married? Or wait, so the only reason for any one to get married is because they have to reproduce?

Does that mean that because my husband and I don’t want to have children that our marriage is not real in the eyes of the state? Or what about the couples that can not have children due to medical issues does that mean that their marriage is not real in the eyes of the state?

What if we adopt? That would be a contract between my husband and me with the Child that we choose to adopt, right? I mean a same sex couple can adopt and make that same contract with a child? So that just kind of blows that out of the water…I am not sure I mean really what do you think about that?

As for Prop. 8 it should never have gone up at all for debate. It should be the right of any person to marry any other person that they choose to. The only reason that this went up at all was because some religious bigot said that in the eyes of “god” that it isn’t right… or “moral” that everyone should have to believe and do what they say we should.

I feel that anything connected with Religion should not have a place in State or Federal affairs. We as a Nation were created on the belief that no one could ever tell us what religion to practice. This should mean that the government can not tell anyone what they can and can not believe. By allowing this kind of idiotic principle to continue you are saying that it is “ok” for whomever is in government to tell everyone that, what “they”(the people in charge) believe in, weather it is a Christian religion or whatever is the right way to live. They are forcing their “religion” or their “morals” on to me and to others.

Telling someone that they can not marry someone they love because it isn’t “morally” right. Is interfering with that basic right to believe what they want to believe and live how they want to live. They are not hurting me or anyone else because they are the same sex and they want to get married? They are not breaking any laws or committing murder. How can anyone justify saying no this? Why is it ok for anyone to tell anyone else that what they believe in is wrong or right. They should be able to do and believe whatever they want to with out forcing that on to anyone else. (This is why the government should not have any say at all in this!)

I feel so bad for all of the gay and lesbian couples that have been affected by this kind of oppression. You would think that in this day and age in the wonderful USA we would be past this kind of close mindedness. I am shocked and very ashamed that this happened and I hope that this some how gets over turned.

I know that I will continue to support my friends that are in a same sex relationships all over the US that want to be married for love, but can’t because their state government says that they can’t.

That being said… If you want to, you can move up here to Massachusetts… too bad that not all states are as open minded as we are. I hope that changes soon!

I am now stepping down from my soap box…

Love and hugs ~ Gemini